spn fic rec

[mickeym]

We Meet Face To Face To Face, by cormallen. Sam/Dean, NC-17, D/s.

This is NOT a story that trivializes or fetishizes D/s. It's not meant to titilate. It's one brother giving the other something the other probably isn't even consciously aware that he needs. It deals with Dean's issues of needing the control John exercised over both his sons -- needing a father figure (though please don't read that as Dean needing sex with John, because that's really not at all what this story is about). cormallen writes the boys as fucked up, with huge issues that stand around and keep them company, and it comes across so raw and intense it'll take your breath away.

Snippet: Dean is pushing him. Prodding him, working him up; it means what he's doing isn't enough. Dean wants more, needs more than just kneeling on the floor and paying obeisance to Sam's spread thighs.

Comments

[mickeym.livejournal.com]

So it's not a form of communication and talking to people and sharing thoughts. Ok.

It can be. I like to have discussions -- though often I get bogged down with Other Life Stuff just about the time the discussions get interesting.

The biggest thing here is: I don't know you. I had no idea why you came into a rec post to give what amounted to negative feedback.

I kind of understand now, I think, though it still confuses me. Mostly, I suppose, because I have no frame of reference here. I don't have any previous experience with that happening. Granted, my corner of fandom isn't huge, but I've been in fandom in one form or another for coming on 12 years now, with almost six of those on LJ, and none of those years yielded anything like a crit of a rec.

I would not have ever assumed that the LJ owner's personal opinion of themselves or their likes would be so wrapped up in or rely on what other people have as an opinion.

Please *please* don't assume anything of the sort. Two or three years ago? I would have totally assumed exactly that: your opinion directly represented what you thought of my rec (or story or idea or whatever). Would it be true? No. Do I feel that way now? No. But at that time I wasn't emotionally healthy enough to separate ME from...everything else. And there are a lot of folks spread across fandom who don't have very good (if any) shields or armor in place against things like that.

I'm certainly not saying coddle everyone, or walk (type) on tip-toe. Just...don't make blanket assumptions, please, about how your opinions influence others'.

[deansdemongirl.livejournal.com]

"I'm certainly not saying coddle everyone, or walk (type) on tip-toe. Just...don't make blanket assumptions, please, about how your opinions influence others'."

Ok let's go back a bit. This was not my assumption. I was responding to someone who seemed to be SUGGESTING to me that you felt my comments were a personal attack against you and your likes/dislikes.

That kinda confused me because you didn't seem like the kind of person anyone would make that kind of assumption about and I certainly didn't make that kind of assumption about you or else I wouldn't have posted anything at all to your LJ. It just confused me. However I figured this person knows you better than I do and so I was suddenly concerned that I had made you feel like there was some sort of personal attack going on and wanted to convey apologies if that were the case.

I started out on the net back in the early 90's with newsgroups and other limited types of discussion lists. Heck I remember when Yahoo used to be called Onelist. The internet wasn't so segmented back then and we were all sort of thrown together. When people posted a recommendation for something, we discussed it there and it was normal to discuss views and opinions with the person who made the recommendation.

Things are changing no doubt about it and we are becoming compartmentalized and segmented within our fandoms more and more every day it seems.

Ya know I kinda feel like the person who is still using an electric typwriter when everyone else is using a computer. Or maybe I just feel old LOL!

Anyway, thanks for explaining and thanks for opening up about something so personal to let me know a bit more about you. A few years ago I was in the same boat, took a lot of things way too personally. Now I'm trying to do better. Still kinda working on the be more tactful part as well.

M