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[mickeym]

I've had a bunch of people friending my journal of late, and it occurs to me I probably should say hi, and do some sort of introduction or ramble, or whatever. Also, I don't have a "friending policy" as such, but I'm a lot less likely to add/friend you back if you just show up one day out of the blue. I've had some unpleasant experiences online over the years, so I'm a little wary. Drop me some comments, PM me, start a conversation. If you're just here for the fiction or file uploads, that's cool; you don't have to friend the journal if you don't want to. All that is posted unflocked, always has been, and I don't see it changing any time soon. But! If you want to get to know me better -- and I'm always up for making new friends -- then speak up. I'm pretty friendly, I don't bite (unless you want me to), and I love getting to know people. So say hi :)



Hi :) I'm Kim. Or you can call me Mickey, or mickeym, or whatever. Just say it nicely, however you say it, please and thank you. My journal is a mix of real life, fannish life, fiction I wrote, fiction I liked, venting, ranting, etc.

Real Life stuff:

I'm a single mom, divorced now for about three years after 19yrs with the same guy. His idea, not mine. I try to look at it as he did me a huge favor, because (when I can be objective) both of us were actually pretty miserable, and had been for a while.

Anyway! Single mom, working full-time with the Louisville Police Dept, in the property room. I have one kid, Matthew, who I talk about a lot (rant about, vent about, whatever). He's 14, and he's been diagnosed since age seven with Aspergers Syndrome, which is part of the autism spectrum. He's partially mainstreamed in school, and he's finishing up the 8th grade (two more weeks of school and then he's done for the summer). And he'll start high school in August. Which I am sooooo not ready for.

We have an IEP firmly in place, he's had fantastic spec ed teachers (and regular teachers) over the years, and while I know a lot of folks who have kids with special needs have to fight with the school system to get their kids the help they need, fortunately I've been blessed with never having to do that.

Me, I'm 41; will be 42 this November. I don't lie about my age, because I don't CARE about my age. There are days I feel sixteen, days I feel six, days I feel one hundred and six. It's just a number, and it has no bearing on who I am as a person, except to show I've lived long enough to have gained some knowledge and insight (or so I like to believe *g*).

I self-identify as bisexual, and organized religion makes me uncomfortable. Politically I'm a mix of independent and liberal, with a dash of conservative in some areas. I believe strongly that a woman should have the right to make her own decisions with regard to her body, period. I'm not, however, very good at arguing/debating, so I'm not likely to speak up very often (at least, not outside my own journal). I get flustered easily, and then I get nervous, and it never ends well. (Do I even need to mention at this point that I have some self-esteem issues? Thought not.) I'm severely overweight (morbidly obese), and it's from a combination of many things. I'm in counseling for those things, and for the weight, and one of these days things will click and happen. I believe that. I'm also an adult child of an alcoholic, and a childhood sexual abuse survivor.

I believe in equal rights for everyone, regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation or religious preference/affiliation. I believe strongly that gays and lesbians have as much right to marriage as anyone else, and that people should or shouldn't have kids as it works for them. I'm never going to tell anyone they should have children or imply/assume they want them. I have one, it works for me, but that's ME. I try really hard not to make generalized, blanket statements and would appreciate you do the same if commenting in this journal.

I love cats, and tolerate dogs *g* I'm scared to death of birds, heights and enclosed spaces.

Bored yet? :)

Fannish Stuff:

I write slash. If you don't know what that is, it's fiction based on movies/tv/books/whatever that involves two guys in a romantic/sexual relationship. I write it, I read it, I love discussing it. I love talking about sex, sexuality, fetishes, kink, you name it. I'm fairly shameless, actually, and truly believe that the longer you're in fandom, the less shame you have. *g*

A lot of the stuff I write is your basic (albeit graphic) sex. BUT. I also write quite a bit of kink, and some of it's hardcore (blood/knife play, fisting, golden showers, bdsm). I always do warnings for that stuff, so if it's not your thing, heed the warnings and you should be fine. If you ignore the warnings and read anyway, don't whine about it. No one made you read it.

My present drug-of-choice fandom is Supernatural. If you're new to fandom, to Supernatural, to this journal... it's a story of two brothers who fight evil stuff (ghosts, demons, etc). Yes, I slash them. Yes, I know they're brothers. Yes, that would be incest. I don't warn for that specifically if I post a story where the pairing is Sam/Dean, because four years into the show now, I like to imagine most people reading Sam/Dean slashfic know what they're getting. I also write Jared/Jensen (real-person-slash), the two actors who play Sam and Dean, respectively.

Past fandoms include (but are not limited to): The Sentinel, ST:Voyager, assorted anime shows (YuYu Hakashu, Gundam Wing), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, popslash (Nsync, specifically), Highlander. I've dabbled in others (Stargate: SG-1 and Stargate: Atlantis). I've read in all of those plus XFiles, Due South, ST:TNG, ST:TOS, Die Hard, and scads of others that I can't bring to mind right now *g*

I love to read, and to write, fanfic. I love fandom. I've been active in fandom now for...well. Thirteen years. I hope to be around at least that much longer, and then some :)

Anyway, that's me. Drop me a comment and tell me about you! Introduce yourself, tell me your favorite tv show/movie/song/guy/fanfic/whatever.

Comments

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Hi Kim,

I'm Andy, I'm 47, and I friended you a while back - most likely without commenting because, no matter how much I try otherwise, I'm always in a hurry and PLAN to go back later and never seem to make it. My job keeps me very busy and home doesn't seem to be much better!

I enjoy reading your stories and your posts about your son - my brother has been diagnosed with Aspergers and is now 45. So much of what you say about him sounds so familiar.

We (my partner and I) live with our two dogs and three cats and stay busy gardening and doing the occasional DIY project around the house.

Supernatural is my first really big fandom - I dabbled in As the World Turns for a bit with the Luke/Noah storyline, then Hollyoaks with the JohnPaul/Craig, then a lovely friend of mine told me about Supernatural and all bets were off. I feel like I've found a home in this fandom and am SO happy to have found that not all of the fans are 15 year old girls. No offense to 15 year old girls, but I just don't seem to have much in common with them.

The shows that you like are among my favorites, but I haven't gotten into the fanfic aspects of any except Supernatural, although I have read a few SG-1 that I've really liked.

I love that you write a lot of kink with your stories - I don't think that there could ever be too much of that!

Thanks so much for taking the time to write about and introduce yourself. I promise to try to do better with the comments!