"I'm certainly not saying coddle everyone, or walk (type) on tip-toe. Just...don't make blanket assumptions, please, about how your opinions influence others'."
Ok let's go back a bit. This was not my assumption. I was responding to someone who seemed to be SUGGESTING to me that you felt my comments were a personal attack against you and your likes/dislikes.
That kinda confused me because you didn't seem like the kind of person anyone would make that kind of assumption about and I certainly didn't make that kind of assumption about you or else I wouldn't have posted anything at all to your LJ. It just confused me. However I figured this person knows you better than I do and so I was suddenly concerned that I had made you feel like there was some sort of personal attack going on and wanted to convey apologies if that were the case.
I started out on the net back in the early 90's with newsgroups and other limited types of discussion lists. Heck I remember when Yahoo used to be called Onelist. The internet wasn't so segmented back then and we were all sort of thrown together. When people posted a recommendation for something, we discussed it there and it was normal to discuss views and opinions with the person who made the recommendation.
Things are changing no doubt about it and we are becoming compartmentalized and segmented within our fandoms more and more every day it seems.
Ya know I kinda feel like the person who is still using an electric typwriter when everyone else is using a computer. Or maybe I just feel old LOL!
Anyway, thanks for explaining and thanks for opening up about something so personal to let me know a bit more about you. A few years ago I was in the same boat, took a lot of things way too personally. Now I'm trying to do better. Still kinda working on the be more tactful part as well.
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Date: 2008-01-01 06:29 pm (UTC)Ok let's go back a bit. This was not my assumption. I was responding to someone who seemed to be SUGGESTING to me that you felt my comments were a personal attack against you and your likes/dislikes.
That kinda confused me because you didn't seem like the kind of person anyone would make that kind of assumption about and I certainly didn't make that kind of assumption about you or else I wouldn't have posted anything at all to your LJ. It just confused me. However I figured this person knows you better than I do and so I was suddenly concerned that I had made you feel like there was some sort of personal attack going on and wanted to convey apologies if that were the case.
I started out on the net back in the early 90's with newsgroups and other limited types of discussion lists. Heck I remember when Yahoo used to be called Onelist. The internet wasn't so segmented back then and we were all sort of thrown together. When people posted a recommendation for something, we discussed it there and it was normal to discuss views and opinions with the person who made the recommendation.
Things are changing no doubt about it and we are becoming compartmentalized and segmented within our fandoms more and more every day it seems.
Ya know I kinda feel like the person who is still using an electric typwriter when everyone else is using a computer. Or maybe I just feel old LOL!
Anyway, thanks for explaining and thanks for opening up about something so personal to let me know a bit more about you. A few years ago I was in the same boat, took a lot of things way too personally. Now I'm trying to do better. Still kinda working on the be more tactful part as well.
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