I don't know where I'll be tomorrow
Jul. 27th, 2025 11:26 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mickeymNo, I do. Stuck right here, in the third circle of Hell.
(One of) Today's highlight(s): Donnie standing in the kitchen telling me that my curtains weren't going to be up much longer because they smelled "like cat piss". Everyone in my house uses that phrase, and I don't know why it bothers me so much. (I say cat pee. *shrug*) Anyway, I don't know if she just means to take them down and wash them, or throw them away. I'm fine with the former; the latter is only going to happen if she's buying me replacement ones.
Anyway. Cats peeing. We didn't realize until AFTER she turned the burner on... one of them (most likely her cat, Skye, because she has major anxiety out here) peed on the big burner on the stove. Right on the element. I've never smelled anything so burning and acrid in my life. I hit the inhaler several times, and then sat with two fingers under my nose. The true highlight of that was that I asked if she could please open the kitchen window, and she said, "then it'll be even hotter in here". While she has the oven on, cooking dinner for her and Megan. Never mind that both me, and Megan, have diagnosed asthma.
Night before last (I think; I lose track) Matthew and Madisyn told me they wanted me to stay with them -- in a different apartment, not this one. They say it would make more sense to stay together to save money for when we move out of state in a couple of years, and separate our households then, as opposed to now. I was telling Donnie that they want the three of us to stay together, and she said "well, that's news to me, a few nights ago when we were smoking, they were talking about how they're tired of living with you and you've said you're tired with living with them". So I called M/M out and told them what Donnie had said, then asked Donnie to come out. Because she's said some things in the past that Madisyn said wasn't true, and I wanted to know who was saying what.
It devolved into such a fucking mess. All I wanted to know was what was the most current feeling and in the end I was accused of "calling everyone out to start drama at 11 o'clock at night" which I hadn't been doing. I just wanted to know. Then, when I was trying to say what she'd said to me, I used the word "miserable" (probably because it's been the word uppermost in my mind for DAYS), and she flipped the fuck out. Flat out yelled at me -- and cussed at me, to boot -- "Don't you FUCKING put WORDS INTO MY MOUTH", and on it went. Matthew stepped in and asked her to calm down. I apologized for saying that, that I wasn't trying to put words into anyone's mouth. What followed after that was about a half hour of me alternately sobbing, and asking Madisyn why she thinks I don't like her. She mentioned how I told her I was jealous of her, and yes, I did say that to her...four years ago. When she first got here, and I'd never really had to share Matthew's time/attention with anyone. Then she brought up how I'd asked her friend Kayla last fall if Madisyn could come to live with her. I said yeah, I'd asked Kayla that, but there was a lot going on at that time, including Matthew jumping back and forth from "I want a divorce from her" to "I love her she's my life"...and it was just an awful time. We talked some about that, and some other stuff, and meanwhile I'm crying and yeah. It was a pretty awful night. I think it was Friday night, actually.
Donnie and Megan are planning to look at a place -- an apartment -- tomorrow afternoon. They want to move in on September first, and Donnie has asked me if I would co-sign on the lease for them. I said I could do that, but now I'm thinking, what happens if they DO default on their rent? My name will (probably) be on Matthew and Madisyn's lease...can I be on their lease as a lessee, but also be a co-signer for someone? Does anyone know the answer to that?
God, this entry got long. Many thanks to anyone who reads it all the way through.
Cross-posted to my Livejournal; read/comment where you will.
(One of) Today's highlight(s): Donnie standing in the kitchen telling me that my curtains weren't going to be up much longer because they smelled "like cat piss". Everyone in my house uses that phrase, and I don't know why it bothers me so much. (I say cat pee. *shrug*) Anyway, I don't know if she just means to take them down and wash them, or throw them away. I'm fine with the former; the latter is only going to happen if she's buying me replacement ones.
Anyway. Cats peeing. We didn't realize until AFTER she turned the burner on... one of them (most likely her cat, Skye, because she has major anxiety out here) peed on the big burner on the stove. Right on the element. I've never smelled anything so burning and acrid in my life. I hit the inhaler several times, and then sat with two fingers under my nose. The true highlight of that was that I asked if she could please open the kitchen window, and she said, "then it'll be even hotter in here". While she has the oven on, cooking dinner for her and Megan. Never mind that both me, and Megan, have diagnosed asthma.
Night before last (I think; I lose track) Matthew and Madisyn told me they wanted me to stay with them -- in a different apartment, not this one. They say it would make more sense to stay together to save money for when we move out of state in a couple of years, and separate our households then, as opposed to now. I was telling Donnie that they want the three of us to stay together, and she said "well, that's news to me, a few nights ago when we were smoking, they were talking about how they're tired of living with you and you've said you're tired with living with them". So I called M/M out and told them what Donnie had said, then asked Donnie to come out. Because she's said some things in the past that Madisyn said wasn't true, and I wanted to know who was saying what.
It devolved into such a fucking mess. All I wanted to know was what was the most current feeling and in the end I was accused of "calling everyone out to start drama at 11 o'clock at night" which I hadn't been doing. I just wanted to know. Then, when I was trying to say what she'd said to me, I used the word "miserable" (probably because it's been the word uppermost in my mind for DAYS), and she flipped the fuck out. Flat out yelled at me -- and cussed at me, to boot -- "Don't you FUCKING put WORDS INTO MY MOUTH", and on it went. Matthew stepped in and asked her to calm down. I apologized for saying that, that I wasn't trying to put words into anyone's mouth. What followed after that was about a half hour of me alternately sobbing, and asking Madisyn why she thinks I don't like her. She mentioned how I told her I was jealous of her, and yes, I did say that to her...four years ago. When she first got here, and I'd never really had to share Matthew's time/attention with anyone. Then she brought up how I'd asked her friend Kayla last fall if Madisyn could come to live with her. I said yeah, I'd asked Kayla that, but there was a lot going on at that time, including Matthew jumping back and forth from "I want a divorce from her" to "I love her she's my life"...and it was just an awful time. We talked some about that, and some other stuff, and meanwhile I'm crying and yeah. It was a pretty awful night. I think it was Friday night, actually.
Donnie and Megan are planning to look at a place -- an apartment -- tomorrow afternoon. They want to move in on September first, and Donnie has asked me if I would co-sign on the lease for them. I said I could do that, but now I'm thinking, what happens if they DO default on their rent? My name will (probably) be on Matthew and Madisyn's lease...can I be on their lease as a lessee, but also be a co-signer for someone? Does anyone know the answer to that?
God, this entry got long. Many thanks to anyone who reads it all the way through.
Cross-posted to my Livejournal; read/comment where you will.
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Date: 2025-07-28 01:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2025-07-28 10:39 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2025-07-29 03:44 am (UTC)I think co-signing a lease for them is not a good idea - first, you might not even qualify if your income isn't high enough. and if you did sign and they default, you're on the hook to cover it, which could be several months if they skip out, or it takes time to evict them. too much chance you'd end up responsible for their bills - and it's not exactly like they have been doing you any favours lately
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Date: 2025-07-29 01:24 pm (UTC)(HA, see what I did there?)
As for co-signing...don't. You WILL be responsible for whatever they default on, and you don't need that.
Good luck, be well, be safe.
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Date: 2025-07-29 08:48 pm (UTC)