mickeym

I was just having a chitchat in email with a few friends, and I've come to the conclusion that I need to ask this to a larger audience:

Why are there *so many* people out there who perceive BDSM (any combo of those letters) as = dub-con (and sometimes, non-con).

Where does this perception come from?

I realize, too, that sometimes labeling creates issues. What should a story be labeled if there's an agent or device that kicks things off? (Such as

poisontaster's Sex Pollen 'verse.) Then, yes, I'll believe that there's (implied) D/s and dub-con.

BUT. More often than not what I see is someone posting and what looks like "oh, hey, this has D/s in it! It must be dub-con! Because surely no one would be in a relationship LIKE THAT totally by consent."

Well, uh, yeah. Lots of people would, have and are.

So, thoughts, anyone? Is this a fanfic phenom? Do you see it in original fic? Published (like pro books). And how do YOU see BDSMfic? If you see it as dub-con -- even if it's an established 'ship -- why? I'm not going to judge or jump on anyone, but I am genuinely curious.