mickeym | it's been that kind of a day/week/month

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it's been that kind of a day/week/month

This entry and this poll, are happening because I am apparently an IDIOT who has spaced answering feedback on stories for... a while. Ugh. And I kind of hate that, because generally speaking, I answer feedback. I love the feedback I get for my stories, and I want people to know that, and sometimes I get behind, but never as bad as this. *shameface* I went back a year, and have more unanswered than not. So. Your thoughts, tell them to me:

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In non-story, non-writing, non-feedback news, I think I have a mouse. Mice. Something. There's stuff under my kitchen sink that looks suspiciously like rodent droppings. Ugh. DO NOT WANT.

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I would add a caveat to the first answer and that is if it's going to be more stressful to answer it than not, I think you can try to do better in the future.

ugh. rodent droppings DNW.

I think I'm going to do it like, write for half an hour, then answer ten comments. Wash, rinse, repeat until 1) all feedback is answered and 2) (hopefully) my Big Bang is done ;)

I *seriously* was not happy to realize what that was under my sink. I'd noticed stuff before, but it's an older building and there always seems to be stuff, y'know? Bits of insulation, or pieces of...never mind. I suspect it's been there a while, and I've just been firmly in the land of denial. Where I'd like to return to, forthwith. *sigh*

Funny you should mention this; I did spend part of the weekend answering some comments from 11 months ago (WHOOPS) and I apologized to all of them. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. (Apologize, I mean.) I'm usually able to stay on top of it, but when I miss comments, I feel like a jerk. That is not to say everyone should do that; my personal code of comment-answering doesn't really apply to how I feel about other writers and their comments.

Well. Heh. (DUDE. I LOVE THE ICON. It's adorable! Where did you find it??)

Okay. Icon-adoring aside *g* I've always been someone who answers feedback. Maybe not always timely, and I know some have slipped through the cracks -- came in well after I did the bulk, or I just didn't get the notification, or whatever. But I always *tried* to answer. I don't know what happened in the last year, because it's not like I don't have the time. o_O I suspect it's more to do with too MUCH time that I end up pissing away in completely pointless ways.

:)

*hugs* Thank you :)

My personal take on it is - after a couple months I've totally forgotten about feedback I've left, so if I get a response I'm all 'whuh?' But what I do when looking at old unanswered feedback is - if I've gotten a recent comment and there are unanswered ones for the same story, I go through and reply to them all. I don't like having a section of replied to comments, then some not replied to, then some replied to again.

But otherwise, go back maybe a few most recent stories, reply to all the feedback, then move forward and give yourself a freakin' break.

I'm just kind of all ???? over how/why I have so many unanswered. Like, several stories I didn't answer ANY. And I don't know why, because that's not ME. Sometimes I'm late, but not like that.

But I like your thoughts on this. Thank you :) (Also? SO not surprised that you were the one who answered 'yes' on the 'Should Kim get a grip' *g*)

And I don't know why, because that's not ME. Sometimes I'm late, but not like that.

But are you going to use this as a thing to beat yourself up over, or are you going to focus on the positives about changing future behavior? HMM? *eyes you*

FOCUSING ON THE POSITIVES! No, really. I have enough other things to beat myself up over, I don't need to add any more. :)

Awww, I have that happen to me all the time! I always feel a little bad, but I respond anyway. You're seeeeeeeeeriously not the only one!

I know I'm not the only one -- but it was realizing I had a story I posted *a year ago* that I hadn't answered any on! That kind of freaked me out. A lot. But! I will use this as a learning tool, and as I told Zort above, I'm not going to beat myself up over it (I have enough things I already do that over *G*). I'm going to rectify the situation, and move on. *nods firmly*

OH. MAH. GAH. I felt so horrible about this one time. I wrote a story FOR a girl who had given me this incredibly long detailed FB and I never got mailed the comment. I ended up answering it two YEARS LATE and she never replied. Also, I have my xoverau journal set up to go to a mailbox that was since deleted and on my last visit, it turned out there were like twenty enormous thinky comments that were over a year old on several fics. I waded through, but I felt the same amount of dread I think you're feeling.

It's dread and it's feeling bad and it's--gah. Yes. I just...hate not answering. I don't want people to think I didn't appreciate them reading and leaving feedback (especially since there are so many more who don't leave it, I want the ones who do to *know* it's appreciated). Anypoodle, I'm rambling. Also am very glad that most of mine are thinky comments *g* *snugs*

1. You're a relentlessly polite and caring person. 2. LJ has comment notification tissues at regular intervals.

While I am 100% all for polite and think you're awesome for being so considerate of other people's feelings, my personal take on it is that A) most people realize point the first and point the second, B) people who get bent over not getting a response to a "liked this!" need some actualfax problems to worry about.

*hugs you tight* Hey, chica :) Also, thank you :) (I'm PMSing madly right now, I suspect every little thing in my life is going to feel blown out of proportion for the next day or two, as it has all day long, hence some of this freaking out.)

I kind of like the whole 'relentlessly polite and caring'. *g* It sounds pretty kick-ass. Sort of. :)

Also, I need to reupload my icon that matches yours. Have gone too long w/out a 'proper' watersports icon ;)

I did mean it as a compliment, gorgeous.

Hormones suck. I feel ya.

I know you did! :) I smiled at it--I'm still smiling, actually. *snuggles you*

Hormones BITE, and I am so ready to be over this shit. But if I follow in mom's footsteps (or whatever), I have another ten years. Ugh.

I'm pretty "meh" on getting answers to my feedback. I mean, I assume the writer *got* the feedback, and that's all that matters to me. If they have time to answer and say thanks back, cool! If not, no big! I'm not leaving the kudos to get anything back, you know? They already wrote an awesome enough story that I liked enough to say something!

If you're bent on answering all the old comments, yeah, I'd say something about the time lapse, but that's just me. I'm so laid back about this kind of thing - I don't understand people who would/could/do get bent out of shape about it. :)

I'll comment :P I would say just worry about what you haven't answered recently, then as you have time and if you have the energy, work on the back stuff. Honestly, it's always nice to get a little "thank you" for commenting, but it's not like I sit at my computer waiting for it. I comment so you can know that I appreciate something you've done, be it fic, or because you've been brave enough to share something personal and I want to acknowledge that. Is it good manners to go back? sure. But I don't think anyone would blame you for letting old missed posts rid.

*snuggles*

I would reply. Replies are always nice to get, even if they're not immediate -- same as feedback. :)

I'm going with #3 because the way I figure it if your answering old feedback from last year your probably not writing all that yummy fiction. I'm voting for #4 (other) ... if you're feeling bad just write a new fic and we'll call it even. lol. ~_^

"Does Kim need to get a grip?" I voted Maybe even though I'm thinking probably not since getting a grip may interfere with your creative thinking flowwwwww.

Sucking up with words like "creative", "Yummy", and "totally-sane" is not my way of nudging you towards your writing!!!! Nope. No proof. lol.

Um, I'd answer, but then I'm propelled by guilt on every front, so take that with a whole bag of salt. And lighter fluid and a match, if you like.

Nah, seriously I'd do a stock answer--Sorry I hadn't gotten notice of your comment, thank you so much for reading (did you see what I did there?)--for simple comments, but put a thought or two into response to more meaty comments. Or at least I would because, see above, re: guilt.

I'd say let it go and move forward, UNLESS leaving them without replies is going to make you feel bad. I don't think you NEED to reply to them at this point (while getting a reply to feedback is always nice, it isn't really reasonable to expect authors to reply to everything) so it's about doing whatever will make YOU happiest with the situation.

The only time I ever had a mouse in my old flat, it drowned itself in a vase before I got back the next day with the humane traps. Way to over-react, mouse!

i'd answer them, but i'm a freak like that. plus, i don't get a whole ton of comments on my stories, so it's not like it's a chore or anything. :)

also, if i read a story and the author just stopped replying to comments at some point, i figure they a)don't care about that story anymore, or b)they're overwhelmed by life in general, and really don't the additional stress of another comment they're either going to have to answer at some point or feel shitty about not answering, and i probably won't leave a comment myself, even if i really liked the story.

Re question 1, it depends how many comments we're talking about
Plus LJ sucks, so I am sure they will understand- or if ya like make a public entry re why you havent?
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But, sweetie, if you're too buried to do that, just make a general post thanking everyone. Any of your friends know how tough things have been lately and will understand.

*hugs you hard*

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