So it's not a form of communication and talking to people and sharing thoughts. Ok.
It can be. I like to have discussions -- though often I get bogged down with Other Life Stuff just about the time the discussions get interesting.
The biggest thing here is: I don't know you. I had no idea why you came into a rec post to give what amounted to negative feedback.
I kind of understand now, I think, though it still confuses me. Mostly, I suppose, because I have no frame of reference here. I don't have any previous experience with that happening. Granted, my corner of fandom isn't huge, but I've been in fandom in one form or another for coming on 12 years now, with almost six of those on LJ, and none of those years yielded anything like a crit of a rec.
I would not have ever assumed that the LJ owner's personal opinion of themselves or their likes would be so wrapped up in or rely on what other people have as an opinion.
Please *please* don't assume anything of the sort. Two or three years ago? I would have totally assumed exactly that: your opinion directly represented what you thought of my rec (or story or idea or whatever). Would it be true? No. Do I feel that way now? No. But at that time I wasn't emotionally healthy enough to separate ME from...everything else. And there are a lot of folks spread across fandom who don't have very good (if any) shields or armor in place against things like that.
I'm certainly not saying coddle everyone, or walk (type) on tip-toe. Just...don't make blanket assumptions, please, about how your opinions influence others'.
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It can be. I like to have discussions -- though often I get bogged down with Other Life Stuff just about the time the discussions get interesting.
The biggest thing here is: I don't know you. I had no idea why you came into a rec post to give what amounted to negative feedback.
I kind of understand now, I think, though it still confuses me. Mostly, I suppose, because I have no frame of reference here. I don't have any previous experience with that happening. Granted, my corner of fandom isn't huge, but I've been in fandom in one form or another for coming on 12 years now, with almost six of those on LJ, and none of those years yielded anything like a crit of a rec.
I would not have ever assumed that the LJ owner's personal opinion of themselves or their likes would be so wrapped up in or rely on what other people have as an opinion.
Please *please* don't assume anything of the sort. Two or three years ago? I would have totally assumed exactly that: your opinion directly represented what you thought of my rec (or story or idea or whatever). Would it be true? No. Do I feel that way now? No. But at that time I wasn't emotionally healthy enough to separate ME from...everything else. And there are a lot of folks spread across fandom who don't have very good (if any) shields or armor in place against things like that.
I'm certainly not saying coddle everyone, or walk (type) on tip-toe. Just...don't make blanket assumptions, please, about how your opinions influence others'.