*nod* I know it's not that simple because he needs the planning help.

I mean that if a) he doesn't tell you what he needs to plan and then b) expects you to rescue him at the 11th hour after he's lost the instructions, there's not much you can do except let him learn that that combo of a and b just don't work.

*lots of supportive snugglehugs to see you thru his pissy fit* and *love*